Emotions in Life....................

Life some times can appear to be very complex when nothing goes right or nothing happens to your wish. Moreover it can become more complex with contrived thinking and emotions involved.

And I wondered why people go through pains for some issues which can never be resolved and some so trivial but we pull the strings so loud. However what we think trivial may not be same to person who is going through it and his/her reactions can be magnified when he/she is already in a state of depression.

In this occasions it appears that every one else except us are strong and matured but thats not always true. We see lot of people giving their opinions and perspectives and logic behind their thinking which makes us feel they are so damn right and this will influence the thinking and can change our perspectives towards life. But is that right?

Those same people who give matured suggestions might not act the same way when similar or any situation arises to them. The reason for that is the people who give advises are not affected with similar emotions you have. Its not easy for any one to fit into your shoes and give suggestions.

I also wondered how people can get so emotional about some thing so obvious, what on earth makes them feel so. And I know people who normally are soo matured become insecured about some thing which appears so obvious to rest of them. How much ever you plan to avoid, run far, you only get closer and closer the path.

Its not going to be same every day and similarly no one is going to be same with us every time. The preferences change, importance change and they totally have a different priorities. Its some times a strange feeling when you have to confront your best pal all of a sudden almost like a stranger. Hence getting attached can be very disappointing some times. And developing emotions towards someone can be really tricky. Some times how much ever you try to keep things flowing smooth we can't avoid certain misundertandings and miscommunications. All this happens because we never give chance to understand others or ourselves completely.

And one thing I understood is we always have to communicate our feelings or emotions to make people understand or value our deeds. Lot of times we just do thinking its good for them but then they may not feel the same way. Although we do with good intention it carries a differnt message and have to be watchful of what we do and how we do. And some times whatsoever you can't go beyond as there will be limit....MORE TO CONTINUE...................

Wealth, Success and Love

This is a story I came accross while reading some blogs and sounds so true.

A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said "I don't think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat."

"Is the man of the house home?", they asked.

"No", she replied. "He's out."

"Then we cannot come in", they replied.
In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened.
"Go tell them I am home and invite them in!"
The woman went out and invited the men in"

"We do not go into a House together," they replied.

"Why is that?" she asked.

One of the old men explained: "His name is Wealth," he said pointing to one of his friends, and said pointing to another one, "He is Success, and I am Love." Then he added, "Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home."

The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. "How n ice!!", he said. "Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!"

His wife disagreed. "My dear, why don't we invite Success?"

Their daughter-in-law was listening from the other corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: "Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!"

"Let us heed our daughter-in-law's advice," said the husband to his wife.
"Go out and invite Love to be our guest."
The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, "Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest."

Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, t he lady asked Wealth and Success: "I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?"

The old men replied together: "If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would've stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!!!!!!"

MY WISH FOR YOU...
-Where there is pain, I wish you peace and mercy.
-Where there is self-doubting, I wish you a renewed confidence in your ability to work through it.
-Where there is tiredness, or exhaustion, I wish you understanding, patience, and renewed strength.

-Where there is fear, I wish you love, and courage.

My World Cup Predictions

Its Cricket fever every where in Bangladesh and India surprisingly more in Bangladesh than anywhere else. This time there is very good chance for Bangladesh to come to quarter finals and no wonder if they surprise and come to semis first time ever. This time world cup is more predictable than ever but we never know any thing can happen in One day cricket.

My World Cup Predictions

Good chance of which team makes final top 4 in their respective groups.

Group A
Australia (Srilanka)
Srilanka (Australia)
Pakistan
New Zealand

Group B

South Africa (India)
India (South Africa)
England
Bangladesh

Quarter Finals
Aus vs Bangladesh (Srilanka vs Bangladesh)
Sri Lanka Vs England (Australia vs England)
India vs Pakistan (India vs New Zealand)
New Zealand vs South Africa(Pakistan Vs South Africa)

Semi

Aus vs India (No change)
Sri Lanka Vs South Africa (No change unless Pakistan stuns South Africa or South Africa chokes as usual)

Final can be tricky but my wild guess is India vs Sri Lanka
but can be India vs South Africa too we never know and if South Africa comes to final they have great chance.

Diplomacy

Its vital some times to have diplomacy and tact to deal people with different sets of thoughts and ideas however its not easy to implement concoct of ideas from every person and yet not to disappoint them for not using their idea. To do this Its needs lots of control and confidence on oneself. But does this work all the time?

Its hard and needs lots of patience to listen to every one's advices and suggestions. It some times puts you into confusion and at this situation, its better to show our stubbornness and at the same time I think its better to convey our feelings mildly but with sincerity so you really don't hurt yourself by trying to please others.

And some try to convey a message indirectly just to make sure every thing is in harmony but does this message go in a right way?

I guess some times its better to directly express what you feel, may be in pleasant way to the other person rather than telling some obvious stories or indirectly conveying the message. There is very good chance of misunderstanding and even if the other person gets hint of it, he/she may be confused depending on situations.

Some times it can hurt the other person if he/she knows whatever you have told is a lie when he/she considers you to be special. Its very hard to come up with same lie and usually will be very obvious over period of time. One should never try to be diplomatic or use tact when you feel a person is really important .

Overall diplomacy and tact should not be used in every situation and one needs to be stubborn on what they feel is right and should be less influential by every ones suggestions and advices.

Emotions vs Intelligence

Emotions are like gigantic waves which looks beautiful for the sight, mellifluous to hear and romantic to feel but most aggressive, volatile and dangerous when you deal them in a wrong way where as Intelligence is like a surfing on this waves avoiding any drifts to manage a smooth ride.

Once lot of Organizations preferred IQ(Intelligence Quotient) to measure the persons ability which off course seems to be working fine until we realized that human beings although very intelligent can utterly undo their performance or ability under different circumstances. We have great examples in history and names does not require as it is very obvious or at least we all are victims at one point or the other.

One knows its not a best way to deal but still the emotional urge always over rides the intelligence thought. It some times does not let us do the right thing although we know exactly what it is. And at the same time I also believe that Intelligence is of no use when you can't enjoy the beauty of life which comes with emotional elements like love, empathy and passion. A blend of emotions under perfect management of intelligence makes life perfect. And that's the whole reason now organizations measure ability on their EQ( Emotional Quotient) rather than IQ.

Its definitely a hard task and I feel I have to climb Everest to really manage. What do you guys think. Do you also truly feel the same?

Individuality

The day we come to United States we are so insecure and curious about how its going to be. We respect our seniors and help fellow students and at the same time try to explore opportunities just like how we were in our bachelors where we share, respect and express whatever we feel or like. We are more passionate, empathetic and lively.

But when you slowly start growing in profession we see lot of Individuality although a important thing to posses but not at the cost of losing all the above mention qualities. We tend to become more of introvert, constraint ourselves to people we know (groups) and always with huge expectations when interacting with people. We rarely share our passion, love, and respect to our friends and become more self centric and so individual. We also develop diplomacy, tact and unnecessary maturity which leads to fake conversations and touch me not relationships. The feeling of independence brings confidence but that should not turn into an attitude. A person should be independent and develop individuality but also have limitations to apply them. Its just my opinion sorry if I was wrong.

Dropbox A software to Store Files and Access Anywhere

Recently one of my friends referred me Dropbox which is really a nice software to store files atleast upto 2GB for free. Well whats so great about it? we can use gmail or google documents or yousendit, isn't it?

Yes you can use google documents or gmail to save files but there is still a limit for file size and moreover its not very organized whereas yousendit can take upto 100MB at a time but they will refresh every week so its not a permanent storage.

Overall Dropbox is good software easy to install and use. Initially everyone gets 2GB free memory and everytime you refer some one both you and your friend can earn 250 MB extra space upto a maximum of extra 3GB with referals but still a total of 5GB is still fine besides you have user friendly features where you can share your files, photos or videos with your friends and can access them from any computer where the software is installed if not from its website litterally on any hardware or OS.

The upload and download speeds are not bad at all, so all of us now are exchanging movies and some softwares by sharing with each other.

So just click here https://www.dropbox.com/referrals/NTUyMTM2NDA5 and try it on and don't forget to leave your feedback.